A designer living in New York, Yvonne Lin, tired of not being given the seat in the subway during her first pregnancy, has had a great idea when she got pregnant a second time: He created a prize and set out to give it to the first man who gave him the seat in the subway.
It seems incredible that society is so little sensitized with a gesture of basic respect towards pregnant women, but it was only recently in the eighth month of her second pregnancy when the prize was finally awarded to his rightful deserver.
"Decent type" award
During her first pregnancy, only women, mostly Latin and African-American women, gave her the seat, she says. It was there that it occurred to him that the first man to do so should receive something special. He bought a card that he carried with him to give it to whoever broke that habit.
But that day never came. Until his first baby was born, no man gave him the seat. So, When she got pregnant with her second baby, she decided to double the bet. Ivonne created a prize that she carried in her backpack every day, but over the months she had begun to lose faith in men.
He decided to call the prize "# 1 Decent Dude (the first decent type): Prize for the first man to offer a pregnant woman the seat during two pregnancies." Finally, last Friday, when she was already having a second eight-month pregnancy, he could deliver it to the "decent guy" who deigned to get up to leave his place.
I'm about 8ish months preggers (again) and I look it. I've been gradually coming to the conclusion that men suck. I didn't get a single subway seat offered to me by a man throughout my first pregnancy. So for the second pregnancy, I had this made and I've been carrying it around everyday - till last Friday. This guy is the winner! #subway #nyc #pregnant #socialexperiment
A shared post by Yvonne Lin (@helloyvonnelin) on Feb 28, 2017 at 10:01 p.m. PST
Pregnant women who seem invisible
It’s amazing that you have to reward a man for an act of kindness and empathy how to give the seat to a pregnant woman. When they get on public transport they seem to become invisible women. No one sees them? Does anyone notice a bulging belly? How can anyone sit when a person who is standing needs it most? Some people get a curious sudden sleepiness and fall into a deep sleep in order to avoid getting up.
In some cities, measures have been taken. Extremes that should not be necessary, but seeing the seen, they still are. In Milan badges are distributed to pregnant women with the message "Can I sit down?" so that they are placed in a very visible place and so the other passengers are taken for granted.
For its part, in the city of Busan, in South Korea, if you still do not see it, a light indicates if there is a pregnant woman who needs a seat on the trains.
As parents, it is in our hands to educate children who develop the necessary empathy so that tomorrow do not hesitate to give up the seat to a person who needs it.
