We tend to think that nature, because of which it has been working for millions of years, is perfect, that it works without failures, and that is why the term "natural" serves us many times to raise what is better: "natural childbirth", "breastfeeding natural "," natural food ", etc. While this is true on many occasions, on other occasions nature is a true miserable, and I say it with the worst of intentions, when for their mistakes parents have to make difficult decisions during pregnancy.
Perhaps you have been some of those harmed by it, with problematic pregnancies where you had to decide whether to continue or not, or perhaps choose between two paths, which worse, as happened to a couple who, waiting for triplets, he had to choose whether to go ahead and lose the girl or have them all three very premature, putting all three at risk.
It is the story of Chloe and Rohan Dunstan, who were waiting for triplets and who in the middle of the pregnancy received news that required a decision to move forward. Two boys and a girl were coming and the little girl was at a point where I didn't get enough nutrients or oxygen.
A difficult decision
They had to decide between two options, do nothing and let the two children continue growing until they decided to be born, which would most likely mean the death of the girl, or having a very premature delivery for the three that would put at risk relative the life of the three and that would greatly increase the risk of the three having sequelae.
And they chose to advance the delivery
It is probably the decision we would all have made. The triplets were born 28 weeks, 12 weeks before they were touched (almost 3 months). It's a long time, they still lacked a lot, but as we explained a few days ago, more and more premature get ahead and every time they do it with less sequels. Yes, the three of them put themselves in danger, but they have to go ahead and losing a baby is something that you would not have forgotten in life.
In statements to the Daily Mail, the mother said she felt guilty for the two children, because if they had moved on they would have been born much bigger and stronger, but could not contemplate the other option, with which they would have felt even worse.
Those terrible decisions
Now the babies, the triplets, are already at home and the parents thus close a chapter of uncertainty, of tests, of hopes, of comings and goings to the hospital to give way to the rest of their lives, to what comes next, to take care of them and help them grow with their other three brothers.
They are the result of one of those terrible decisions that parents wish they never had to take: when the fetus is not forming well and could be born almost to die and you must decide whether to move on or stop the pregnancy. When they tell you that they could have Down syndrome and you must decide what to do, whether to go ahead or have an amniocentesis (I know a couple who chose the latter, to make sure, and they lost the baby in that 0.5% chance of abortion after this test, having now enough problems to achieve a new pregnancy), etc.
Decisions that then leave a feeling of doubt, forever, of what would have happened if the other option had been chosen. Decisions that make you feel guilty, like this mother, who opted for what she considered best but still feels guilty (how guilty she would have felt if she had taken the other).
Nature does not know about feelings, or the love you feel for your babies when you know they are coming, and on many occasions, more than desirable, perhaps because our lifestyle is far from being fairly natural, sends us dislikes, bad news and problems for which decisions have to be made.
Decisions that are not always easy, that others will not always share, and that are solely and exclusively for the couple. Sometimes they have a happy ending and sometimes you have to live with them forever.
Encourage all those who have ever had to make such a decision, those who have to make it, and I hope everything always ends well, as in the case of this couple and their triplets.
