Being a father, being a mother, is a relatively big change in the life of a couple and a totally new event that generates confusion, anxiety, fears and desire to do it well or very well, feeling responsible for such a small and dependent baby. Within these desire to be good parents, the industry tries to help by offering inventions and gadgets to cover some needs, and sometimes, to create new ones, making parents believe that it will be the best way to get ahead.
I have already explained on occasion that when we had our first baby we spent a lot of money in what made us believe we would need. 95% of what we bought was not used again with the second or the third.
These days I have known the existence of the cradle 'Snoo' and I wanted to comment here so that as parents you can see how far the industry can go: a crib that immobilizes the baby and rocks him so he hardly needs to be with his parents.
What is the cradle 'Snoo'
It is a baby cot, nothing economical (around $ 1,100), which has the power to wrap the baby and automatically rock it with different intensities to stop crying, calm down and fall asleep.
Wrapping the baby is a well-known technique that mimics the pressure and lack of space felt in the womb, which goes relatively well for babies who have a reflection of very strong Moor and that with almost any involuntary movement they are exalted and awake (or they wake up when you want to move them from the arms to the cradle for the same reason). But of course, it is to do it on some occasions, not for the baby to sleep all night and naps that way, because you cannot move your arms in any case and that can affect the level of mobility development and strength in these extremities.
In reference to the ability to rock the baby, imitate (I do not know if very accurately) the dance of the parents when they have the baby in their arms: repetitive, from side to side, only that in a more exaggerated way. At least in the videos I think they are moving too much. Effective it is, because babies stop crying, but the mechanism does not know if it is due to the movement of the movement that relaxes them, or by excess movement of the brain inside the baby's skull. At no time do I talk about being shaken, which are very dangerous because they produce concussions, but it does give me the feeling that it is not a natural movement… No mother or father moves her son like that.
And where is the link?
In any case, what worries me the most, or what I dislike most (worrying really shouldn't be because I wouldn't buy it, and every father and mother who does what I think best), is the depersonalization of care and deficiencies that can occur in babies.
I explain myself: babies arrive in the world immature and dependent, and from their needs they help their parents learn how to take care of them. Thus they teach them how to catch them better, how to rock them, how to feed them, how to sleep them, how to love them, how to make them feel responsible for their care forever ... With this cradle we no longer have to worry about catching them when they cry, of rocking them, of singing a babysitter , of dancing so that they sleep in our arms; which is something that is sometimes done uphill, but that you always remember with love: that time when you could take them in their arms and fall asleep with you, trusting that they were safe by your side. I would not change it for anything and would do it again a thousand times.
In other words, the first years of the baby and then the child are the most important emotionally because that is when he creates the foundations on which he will then build his vision of the world, of relationships and of his self-image and self-confidence with respect to others. Babies who have more contact with parents, who are cared for by them, loved ones, and feel full of them are more likely to have more confidence in their day-to-day life when exploring, inventing and being creative and autonomous than that have lacks; They will be more alert trying to control situations, noises, etc., that scare them and are not sure that their parents will control. Similarly, babies who spend more time in their arms, who are more related to them, feel more important in the family and they have greater self-esteem and self-confidence.
Looking at the role of parents, the same thing happens a little: the more capable they feel of calming the baby, the more they will know it and the better they will feel in their functions. It is a matter of strengthening ties, of learning to listen to the demands of the baby, of feeling the responsibility and solving the worst moments, taking confidence along the way. If this initial work is made by a crib, when it no longer fits in it and it should be you who should sleep and calm the baby you will have to quickly learn how to do it, or you will want to resort to another method such as letting him cry, which will be even worse for the child and worse for your relationship, since that connection of "Daddy I need you" and "Here I am, son" will not even have been created.
All this to sum it up in one sentence: "Children come to the world to love us and be loved ... It is not worth letting a machine replace us".
