Following the thread of the post published a few days ago in which we talk about children who cause diseases to get attention, today we will talk about that theory that says that there are children who cause vomiting for the same reasonNormally, as they say, to manipulate parents.
To talk about it, I will focus on a very clear example, since it can be read in a well-known book whose objective is to teach children to sleep the night of the pull or, in other words, to help them understand that even if they wake up it is preferable not to notify the parents.
This book says that children should be put to sleep alone in their room after six months because at that age they should already go to bed without crying and with joy, fall asleep alone, sleep on the pull and do it in their crib without light .
This summary of what a child should do at six months, which has no basis and that seems to be expressed because the author thinks it should be so (as if I say that six-month-old children would have to eat all a 600 grams vegetable porridge and I write a book to teach mothers how to get it), is The best way to make parents believe their child has a problem.
However, it is not true, the majority of 6-month-old children are unable to do the four things discussed and therefore most 6-month-old children (and henceforth) complain when their parents try to "educate" their dream.
Among these signs of dissatisfaction with the feeling of abandonment, crying is considered the most common. Children cry to say that something is wrong and in these circumstances they cry because they don't want to be alone. This book explains that we should not heed the tears, but go to see the child who cries every x time to let him know that we are there, but without meeting their demands.
This in itself is already highly worrying, because parents are forcing situations and habits that go unnatural (nature establishes that babies' sleep is evolutionary and causes them to wake up often to be fed and to survive: to see who it is the handsome man who decides to sleep soundly all night when there are dangers lurking). However, today we are going to skip the topic of crying because we will focus on another of the possible manifestations of children in the face of parents' refusal to attend to them: the vomit.
As we can read in the dream manual, children communicate through the action-reaction principle, always looking for an adult response. In the case of sleep, children often choose to ask for water, say that something hurts or even vomit.
The author (Estivill, of course), says that this is normal because children easily provoke it. Let's say you consider the child to vomit not because of the disgust, nor for the time he has been crying, but because after seeing that crying does not work, he looks for a more scandalous resource and vomiting seems to be a good option.
As he says it is normal, he says that the role of parents should be to be impassive: enter the room, change the pajamas of the child, the sheets and "if I have seen you, I do not remember", continuing with the square which indicates how often dad or mom can enter the room if the child is crying.
Today I refrain from analyzing in depth Estivill's vision of children's vomiting at nightWell, I'll do it another day. Now I put you to a next post in which we will talk about this, from the vision of Rosa Jové.
