The new trends in education and upbringing have caused health professionals to be divided into two distinct groups: those who say you don't have to let your baby cry and those who say that let you cry, so that he realizes that you cannot always attend to him and thus stop crying.
Since Babies and more, and not because it seems to us a tendency, but because it seems to us a matter of common sense and respect, we usually speak of a parenting style in which parents simply dedicate themselves to meet the needs of your children, being the need for contact, to receive affection and affection a need as (or more) important as eating or being clean and dry.
This is what Sarah should have thought, a mother who wrote two years ago in a blog that, because he never let his daughter cry, she was still alive.
His second daughter, the result of a second Caesarean section, was born in February 2007. It is already known that when one already has a child, taking care of the second is a little more complicated than when you only have one, so when at the week of birth a friend gave him a shoulder bag with rings, he began to use it gratefully, soon becoming an indispensable tool. Every afternoon her daughter cried, arched, did not want her chest or wanted a pacifier. I didn't even want arms. The only thing that calmed her was the shoulder bag.
The girl began to lose weight and the mother decided that her daughter would always go where she was best, that is, in the shoulder bag. He decided of course to go to the doctor, whom he went to several times. The girl began to hurt her at the time of breastfeeding, at which time they both ended up screaming. Finally she changed her breast milk for artificial milk and the situation changed, perhaps worse, because the girl began to have reflux. Doctors told him he had lactose intolerance. The girl gained little weight and cried more and more.
The only thing that calmed her was the contact with mom
This led him to spend more than one night on the couch with her, with the girl sleeping in her lap. This was the trigger for people to start telling him that I was doing it wrong, who was getting used to the girl badly, to which she replied that it was the only thing that worked. People began to recommend that she let her cry, that she should leave her alone and that she would fall asleep, but she felt that her responsibility as a mother did not end at bedtime.
At six months, seeing that the thing remained the same, he asked his doctor to enter the girl. As you know, a hospital admission is not a dish of good taste ever, but when things go wrong, when a mother feels that something is not going well, the only hope that they can help her makes an income a blessed solution. The pediatrician agreed and they admitted her. They did tests and x-rays, fed her even by force so that the girl could gain weight and evolve, but the girl kept crying and screaming if she was not constantly with her mother.
A day before leaving the hospital, a pediatrician told him that he was not doing everything he owed to his daughter. He said that I didn't put any effort into feeding her, nor was I able to put her in another room to let her cry until she fell asleep. At that moment he decided that this pediatrician would not treat his daughter anymore.
Thus the weeks and months passed, with the girl hanging all day. He went with her to buy, to the park, to the shower ... people told him that if he always carried her on top, he would never learn to walk. She had it in mind, but learned to ignore the advice, because carrying her was the only thing that made her not cry.
A year, finally, a diagnosis
Days before the age of one year the girl began to have a high fever and cough. He went to the emergency room where he had a lung x-ray. Looking for evidence of possible pneumonia they realized that the girl had a bigger heart than normal. They decided to enter it and finally had a diagnosis to explain a year of almost continuous cries.
While on the floor, the girl began to cry again, making one of her most "memorable" episodes. The nurse gave the baby carrier to the mother, the mother put the girl in it and there, with her, she calmed down again.
They explained that the girl had heart failure, a rare heart defect for age, but very serious, which had caused several heart attacks. The mortality rate of said disease was 90% in the first year. The cries were due to the discomfort caused by heart attacks and the oppressive pain in the chest that was derived from each episode.
The cardiologist wanted to give value to what the mother had done so far and said, almost secretly, in the hallway and in a low voice, that it was the way he had taken care of her that had saved her daughter's life.
Now the girl, Mila, is over three years old. After two interventions she leads a normal life, like that of any three-year-old girl who runs, jumps and plays and who also takes care of her little sister who, logically, is also ported by her mother when things get “tense” .
Children, when they cry, suffer
It is true that it is a rare disease. It's true that when our healthy babies cry, they don't because they are having a heart attack. All this is clear, however, babies have no other way to request company than through crying and, when they cry, it's because they really need something.
Do you know why babies crying is so annoying? Because if it were nice, nobody would take the babies. The problem is that many parents are desensitizing to the point that not only does it not bother them to cry, but they also leave them to be themselves who stop doing so.
