Being a girl, growing up, studying, working, finding a stable partner and having children. It seems that this is the logical sequence that almost all people follow (men included) and it seems that it has always been taken for granted that it is usually the woman who pushes the man, usually more immature, to take the step of being parents, for a matter of instinct, of waking up from the desire to be a mother.
Lately, instead, it is increasingly doubting that there is the so-called maternal instinct, the one that makes a woman feel the need or desire to be a mother, the one who even makes the pregnancy contagious, and doubts him because there are more and more women who decide not to have children.
According to data from the National Statistics Institute, in the community of Madrid in 1991 there were 6% of households with couples without children. In 2001 it increased to 9.8% and in 2011 there were already 14.5%. The trend is therefore on the rise and this increase is causing the question of whether the desire to have children in women actually exists or if women have simply wanted to be mothers always because it is what has been expected of them.
Not having children?
A few years ago, when I only had one child, I met a woman who had known me since I was 11 years old who was astonished to see me as a father (“But I have known you since you were that small and now I see you with a son! "), that he apologized in some way for having decided not to have children. As she told me they had made the decision, she and her partner, for not seeing themselves as parents, for wanting to dedicate their lives to other things.
I figured like them and the truth is that it made me sad, I felt empty and cold, but of course, I am the room of six brothers and now I have three children. I suppose that my family vision is far from his own and if we now saw each other again and saw my dark circles, my new wrinkles and my three children hovering around me like a bee in search of its pollen, surely she would be the one I could relate a lot of more or less unpleasant sensations when imagining myself in my role as father, or in your role as mother.
By this I mean that The decision to be a mother or a father or not is personal and should be respected by everyone. It is not usual, because what has always been done is to have children, but that does not make it a reason for criticism. Until now, a woman who decided not to be a mother was frowned upon, misunderstood and directly entered into a strange circle of women marked as "rare who do not like children." But, as I say, deciding not to have children is a decision as respectable as deciding to have them, because today you can decide until you have children you have not given birth, thanks to adoptions, for example.
Is there maternal instinct?
I think so, for the same reason that yesterday I told you at the entrance about boy and girl toys that girls of a few months already opt for dolls. I think that the desire to be a mother exists and that it is more or less intense depending on which women.
What happens is that in the same way that many instincts are controlled by our reasoning and our learning (sexual instinct we all have, but we have learned to control it to let it out at specific times, for example, in the same way that there are people who choose not make use of it), it is very possible that many women do not feel that need to be a mother, or that they feel it but they choose not to be it when putting in the balance the pros and cons.
Do you think it exists?
Now it's your turn, what do you think of the subject? Is there an instinct to perpetuate the species, is there a desire to be a mother as an instinct?
