Nine things a mom wants in the postpartum

The great moment has arrived, they have accompanied you during pregnancy and probably during childbirth, you have already commented on your needs at that time, but what happens after delivery? Do they know what you need around you? These are nine things moms want in their postpartum, do not forget to take them into account if you are going to accompany her in those moments and if you are the mother, make your wishes known.

We are in a very delicate moment, in which the body is weak and the sensitivity to the surface of the skin, in which the fragile baby is your world and that world has turned upside down. Those who visit you should know this state of the situation and also be sensitive to it. Do not disturb, but help and accompany in whatever you want.

  • Hold the baby, feel it close, that the transit from inside the mother's body to the outside is not so abrupt. Calmly let the baby recognize its smell, touch, heat and taste. Feel your skin-to-skin breath, whisper in your ear, kiss it and meet it for the first time, running through your little body.

  • Other people do not touch or catch the babyAt least without parental permission and never if you are a stranger. The protective instinct arises strongly and the mother thinks that anything can harm the baby (will she have washed her hands? Doesn't she smell a little weird? Why does she breathe so close to him?).

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  • Recent mothers need privacy. The need for postpartum intimacy is normal, especially in the early hours, so if you have not been explicitly invited to go to see the baby to the hospital, do not do it on your own. Ask the parents first.

  • Rest. As simple and necessary as that. The physical effort made during childbirth leaves the mother exhausted and the first days of the baby sleep shines through her absence, so any rest will be welcome, any gesture that facilitates that rest, any pampering, will be grateful.

  • Have help visits. Do not visit compromise, or long, or disturbing ... We still need calm and above all help. Postpartum visits can be of great help if we ask, if they help us at home, with food, with laundry, with older siblings ... Of course, that help should be not as they want but as we need.

  • Call before visiting us. It may be that the visit agenda does not match our need for rest, or that of the baby, or we simply do not feel like receiving anyone at any given time. Friends and family should be understanding about this reality and we do not hesitate to make this simple request: let them know if you plan to come see the baby.

  • Do not receive advice that has not been requested. What less a mother needs with the revolutionized hormonal state, with lack of sleep and with a thousand doubts and fears in the head is someone who gives advice without having asked for it. Because they are not professionals, because they are not in your skin, because you are not interested in how their postpartum was…

  • Don't hear comments about your fitness. We know that we are not at our best after having given birth. We are not magazine mothers but real, with our belly, with our dark circles and marked wrinkles, perhaps bloodshot eyes and not very agile. But we do not need anyone to remind us, or visits, or medical professionals with little tact.

  • Receive some detail, some whim. We love gifts for the baby (especially if they are useful and practical), but we also like to think that they remember us and give us something that we like and that can raise our spirits at a certain time, a luxury: flowers, chocolates, ham, a massage ...

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Probably, some of these needs will not be so marked in all mothers, everything will depend on their physical and mental state after delivery. Do you agree with these wishes of moms in postpartum? What did you feel you needed?

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